Is it ok to not be okay?


A Facebook friend posted this question for all:

“Is It Ok Not To Be Okay ?
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Yes, the answer that came to my mind is, certainly it is ok to not be okay, just as it is human to be imperfect and make mistakes. This video of a boy repeatedly picking up and dropping a ball came to my mind as an apt illustration of this observation.
Aren’t we all like the boy at some points in our lives (or perhaps more accurately, various points in our lives)? No matter how hard we try to put things together, we will find ourselves missing the mark here and there. Society and (most) organised religions have often frowned upon such humanness, causing us to feel pressurised to hide our weaknesses and frailties, in order to show the world (especially the corporate world or so-called “professional” world) how we have it altogether. We feel pressured to show the world only our “best” image, in terms of how much we have accomplished, how many titles we have to our names (if any), and so on instead.
I came to realise that my own profession as an editor exists mainly as a result of such humanness. I mean, if authors can write perfectly in terms of factual accuracy, grammar, and so on, then there would be no need for editors. We editors would be virtually out of job. Hence, to put it simply, imperfect authors give editors a purpose to live – to correct mistakes, and to improve on what is good, so that it can be even better.
Similarly, editors can learn to accept that we are also humans, and are just as prone to making mistakes, like authors and like everyone else. This is how we learn and grow and upgrade ourselves – through owning and acknowledging and learning from our mistakes, both individually and collectively.
By learning to live with the fact that it is ok not to be ok, we give ourselves permission to be human, to come to terms with our failures, to see mistakes as opportunities to grow. More so, we give ourselves permission to feel our emotions, whether “positive” or “negative” emotions, such as happiness, sadness, anger, excitement, resentment, gratefulness, etc, for they are all part of the multidimensional human experience. Indeed, we can learn to give ourselves a safe space to express our emotions and not repress them.
As the saying goes, “to err is human; to forgive divine.” In a sense, without errors, there would be no need for forgiveness. The reason why forgiveness exists is because errors exist. If we humans were perfect and we had never erred or failed, then there would be no need for the gift of forgiveness to exist. Humanity and divinity exist hand in hand – to be human requires divine forgiveness, and to be divine requires human imperfection. Come to think of it, it is amazing to see the humanity and divinity in each one of us. 

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